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Anchors Aweigh – Or How a Prank Taught Me About Being Human

The assignment was to write and deliver a motivational speech. 

It was a standard part of the leadership training. It seemed like kind of a hokey and contrived assignment. 

We wondered if we could make it better.

We were a group of medical students, dental students, nurses and law students. We were in our “Officer’s Indoctrination School” (OIS) for the United States Navy. This was a 6-week training course that was designed to take us from being civilians to being officers in the U.S. Navy. We learned how to march and salute. We learned how to wear our uniforms. We learned about the customs and regulations of the Navy. 

We also learned a lot about leadership. I didn’t realize it then, but it molded a lot of who I am today.

During the training I made good friends. Perhaps it was the stress of staying up all night running floor buffers to wax and polish the floors. Or prepping for the inspections using a toothbrush to scrub the cracks on the floor. Or in using Q-tips to clean the windowsills. Or choosing to not sleep in your bed because you might wrinkle the perfectly made bed with its tightly ironed hospital corners. But in any event, we had become good friends.

We were talking about the assignment together. How could we truly deliver a motivational speech? One of us came up with a silly idea. It was risky. We could get in trouble. But the more we talked about it, the more we liked it. We thought it would be worth the risk.

The class time came, and we were all ready. 

One of my friends got up to give his speech. As he got near the climax of his speech, we perfectly executed our plan. It started out with just a very low-level humming. Then it grew. 

Ever so slightly louder. 

And then a little bit louder. 

And then it was clear what was happening. 

A group of us in the class were humming, “Anchor’s Aweigh!” 

The humming got so that we were filling the room with sound and then we let it all go. We jumped to our feet and began singing at the top of our lungs, 

“Anchors Aweigh, my boys, Anchors Aweigh. Farewell to college joys, we sail at break of day-ay-ay-ay. Through our last night on shore, drink to the foam, Until we meet once more. Here’s wishing you a happy voyage home.”

It was risky.

We could have gotten in a lot of trouble.

We looked at our Lieutenant Commander instructor to see if we were going to have to pay a penalty for our little prank. 

She had tears streaming down her face. 

They were not tears of sadness. They were not tears of laughter. 

Then we understood. And the joke was on us. In that moment we all learned a lesson. 

That was the day that I became a part of the United States Navy.

Suddenly I was filled with immense pride and a sense of belonging. I understood the deep traditions of the Navy. I felt linked to the many men and women who had so bravely fought and risked everything to be a part of the Navy. In an instant I understood what it meant to be committed to something bigger than myself.I understood how hearing just a song could trigger deep emotions of pride and respect and belonging. I had tears in the corners of my eyes. And I was now an officer in the United States Navy.

I have been a member of the Navy in my heart ever since that day. I have been so proud of my uniform. Even though this incident happened in May of 1988 and I left active duty in the Navy in June of 1996, I am still Navy. My uniforms are still hung in my closet. I looked at them the other day and I had no intention of moving them. 

It distressed me a couple of years ago when I realized I was likely too old to ever go back on active duty again. In the back of my head had always been this little thought that if ever I got “tired of it all” I might go back in the Navy. But time has marched on and that no longer seems possible. But I am still Navy. 

I heard them singing the “Navy Hymn” for Bush 41’s funeral this fall. It got me a little bit choked up and nostalgic again. That is the song of “my Navy”. I got to serve in the same Navy in which George Bush risked his life in World War II and which molded him into who he was.

What does all of this matter to you?

For those of you who were in the military I suspect it rings true. There is such a strong sense of identity that never seems to leave. There is a link to the generations of men and women who committed themselves to something greater than themselves. The link is to many who have died in the service. There is a link to many who experienced things that I never want to experience. There is a link to tradition and honor and leadership.

For those of you who have never served in the military, the lesson is clear.

There is great value in committing yourself to something bigger than yourself. 

If all you ever do in life is to think about and to live for yourself, you have not achieved very much. You are but one life and your concerns and desires are a small thing. But we were meant to and we were designed to be a part of things bigger than ourselves. 

That is another part of what it means to be human. 

We are not just living a life here of survival on this earth. We are not just going to go through our days surviving and then die. We were meant to build and create and grow. And by working together we can do so much more than we ever could alone.

We were meant to dream big and to build big. What is there that you care about? Is there something that you are willing to invest yourself in? Is there something that is more important than just your own needs and desires? What is there that is worth living for?

Maya Angelou said, “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”

We were meant to create. We were meant to build. We were meant to stand up against injustice and evil. We were meant to band together for what is good and right. And in doing that we find purpose and meaning and honor and joy. 

Thatis something that can make a silly old song trigger tears from a place deep down inside. It can make you cry in a way that is not sad and not laughing but of profound purpose and meaning.

I recently read an article that said that one of the drivers for frequent job changes among millennials is a need for real purpose and meaning. Financial ROI (return on investment) is no longer enough to keep them satisfied and challenged in their work. They feel a strong pull toward finding something big enough to be worth their energy and passion.

What does this mean for your life?

Do not live just for yourself. Live for things bigger than yourself.It is not just the military. It is anything that has deep purpose and meaning for you. What will you treasure at the end of your life? What will you commit yourself to that is so much more than just living for you?

For me it is a bunch of things. 

I am forever proud to have been a part of the Navy. 

I am a father and together with my wife, I am committed to the growth and success of my daughters.

I am proud to have joined the ranks of healthcare professionals as a physician. This is not an isolated thing but is large club that binds us together in shared purpose and experiences. Regardless of what anyone might think, the vast majority of physicians were drawn to healthcare by a desire to use their intelligence and skills for real good.

I have committed myself to making healthcare better in my region. Within heart failure I would like to think that I am not only helping in the care of individual patients with heart failure. While that is excellent in and of itself, there is more. I also want to be a part of having improved the care in my organization. I also dream that I could improve the care beyond this. I want to improve things for an entire region. By example and energy and in whatever way I can, I want to think that patients will get better care by the time I am finished than when I started. That is a huge goal and makes me inspired just to think of it. I just wish there was a song that I could hum as I write this!

On a deeper level, as I have mentioned, I am also a man of faith. 

I believe in an Almighty Creator who has made us in His image and who allows us to be a part of His redemptive plan for His creation. The world is a fractured place. Everything is not as it is supposed to be. That is obvious. But I have a belief in a God who is executing a plan to repair it all. And I believe that He allows us to be a part of it.

That is a very deep level of belonging. 

Suddenly I belong to thousands of years of people who have lived by faith. There are people who have lived and died, many as martyrs, for standing up for what is right. They have opposed tyrants and evil throughout generations. And I am, by an incredible gift of God’s grace, even linked to the sufferings of Christ. This is a deep mystery, but I am linked even to Him. I am, by the purpose and plan of God, linked to a plan to redeem and remake the world into the place that it was meant to be. 

To be committed to such deep purposes is a big part of what it means to be truly human!

What are you living for? What is there that is greater than yourself?

“Anchors aweigh, my boys, anchors aweigh!”

And that is how a little prank flipped back on me and taught me a big lesson about what it means to be a human being.

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Sometimes I Like Rainy Days

Sometimes I like rainy days. This used to be more common than it is now. As I have aged, I have learned, or perhaps have been taught, to enjoy and appreciate sunny days. But there was a period in my life when I really enjoyed rainy days.

Why is this?

Perhaps it is nostalgia. On the farm there were many days of working in the fields. These could be interrupted by rain. The sudden downpour with drenching rain and rush for inside. Then the soothing feeling of changing into dry clothes and settling into the warm house. The day was suddenly free. We could do anything. We could watch television or play games or just do anything. We couldn’t work because of the rain. It was like a snow day in the summer. It was a gift.

I think there is more to it than that. Life is not always cheery and happy. This is a broken world. There is often sadness and grief. It can be hard to put up with bright sunshine when your heart is not happy. When the gray and rain come, it is easier to relax and be at one with whatever grief is in your heart and soul. You are allowed to be as you want to be, rather than having to put on what you think that you should be. You can be quiet. You can be sad. You can be mellow. You can just be.

Perhaps it is like watching a dramatic movie. It can be a sweet indulgence of your inner sorrow. You break down in tears for what is happening on the movie screen. But what you may be really crying for are the experiences from your life. You are feeling a deeper sorrow within your own heart. It is like a syncing up of your outward expression and your feelings with what is happening within. 

But there is a risk in the rain.  

It can be a prideful self indulgence. It can be to ennoble yourself by whatever grief you are feeling at the expense of ignoring the good that remains in your life. 

For while this is a broken world, there is still beauty and joy within it. 

In the midst of the rain, there remains the promise of sunshine to come after. In the midst of sorrow, there is the love of a dear friend and a listening ear. On the top of the thorny stem of a rose is the sweet and beautiful rose. The dramatic movie is so sad because of the joys that were also present in the movie. 

This life is complicated in that it is neither perfectly joyful nor perfectly sorrowful. It is a mixture of good and bad, joy and sorrow, sunshine and rain.

I used to enjoy a rainy day. 

That was easier. But over time I have learned to really enjoy the sun. Honestly, I have been taught to enjoy the sun by my wife Sarah and my daughters. 

They have patiently taught me that it is not good to take myself so seriously. They have shown me the joy of the sunshine. I have learned how to look for the good in the day. At times they have had to tease me out of the rain and into the sunshine. They may not know what they were doing in this. But they have brought to me the ability to enjoy the sunshine.

I sit and type this on a wonderful and sunny day. I was at a restaurant and asked to be seated at a table in the sunshine and felt it warm on my back and neck. I stared out the window and looked at the sun shining through the trees. I felt all that is good in the world and it balanced out anything the gray and rain of the past two days. 

I can still feel deeply and write this blog and yet enjoy the sunshine. Drama does not always require sorrow. Drama can exist in the sunshine. It is just that many of us have not yet learned the skill of enjoying the days of sunshine and that doing so does not betray the reality of the rain.

I am thankful for having been taught to be able to enjoy the sunshine as well as the rain. I know that I am a more complete human now for having gained that skill.

That is the balance that is real and true and essential.

Parts of life are rain. They are gray. They are sad. Or they may be just not sunshiny and happy.

Parts of life are sunshine. They are bright and happy and warm.

Both are real. And we need to be able to embrace both of them.

If you think life is only sunshine, you are not being honest about the reality of this world. Sometimes we need to be mellow and quiet.

If you live your life only in the rain, you also are neglecting the good that remains for you to enjoy.

I used to really enjoy a rainy day. Sometimes I do still. But now I welcome with great relish the sunshiny days as well. I celebrate them with great vigor. And that is I think a key life skill. The skill is to be mature enough to be able to acknowledge the rainy days before with the grief, the pain, the sorrow and all that happened but yet to celebrate the sunshine when it comes. The joy in the sunshine is in no way a betrayal of the rainy days. It does not ignore the fact of the rain. But it does acknowledge the fact of the sunshine. Both are reality. And indulging in only one or the other is a great failing.

Sometimes I like rainy days.

But now I also really like sunny ones as well.